From owner-freebsd-current Sun Jan 2 20:29:53 2000 Delivered-To: freebsd-current@freebsd.org Received: from mail.iserlohn.netsurf.de (mail.iserlohn.netsurf.de [194.195.194.253]) by hub.freebsd.org (Postfix) with ESMTP id 4DE11152A4 for ; Sun, 2 Jan 2000 20:29:50 -0800 (PST) (envelope-from sascha@schumann.cx) Received: from schumann.cx (hennen32s.iserlohn.netsurf.de [194.195.194.226]) by mail.iserlohn.netsurf.de (8.9.1/8.9.1) with SMTP id FAA18323 for ; Mon, 3 Jan 2000 05:29:25 +0100 Received: (qmail 66213 invoked from network); 3 Jan 2000 04:29:06 -0000 Received: from flaubert.foo.bar (192.168.0.99) by guerilla.foo.bar with SMTP; 3 Jan 2000 04:29:06 -0000 Received: (qmail 6724 invoked by uid 500); 3 Jan 2000 04:29:05 -0000 Date: Mon, 3 Jan 2000 05:29:05 +0100 From: Sascha Schumann To: ---- Cc: freebsd-current@freebsd.org Subject: Re: Your misleading, no LYING message to me Message-ID: <20000103052905.A3438@schumann.cx> References: <200001030356.WAA13364@pistol.cde.com> <005701bf559e$ef1b4a00$7f3eb4d0@tcac.net> Mime-Version: 1.0 Content-Type: text/plain; charset=us-ascii X-Mailer: Mutt 1.0i In-Reply-To: <005701bf559e$ef1b4a00$7f3eb4d0@tcac.net>; from smccloud@tcainternet.com on Sun, Jan 02, 2000 at 09:59:28PM -0600 X-Notice: Copyright (c) 1999 Sascha Schumann. All rights reserved. X-Operating-System: Linux 2.2.13 #10 Mon Dec 27 20:35:15 CET 1999 alpha Sender: owner-freebsd-current@FreeBSD.ORG Precedence: bulk X-Loop: FreeBSD.ORG On Sun, Jan 02, 2000 at 09:59:28PM -0600, ---- wrote: > He is just expressing his point. From what I can tell someone removed him > from the list with no reason and now he is angry. I probably would be too. That does not excuse his style of communication. Shouting and calling people names is no solution. It will damage the relationship between the involved parties and will make an agreement among them impossible. You can express emotions, but please do it in a civilized and controlled way. I usually recommened the following books to disagreeing parties. They are easy to read and tell you much about communication. Getting to Yes, by Fisher and Ury, ISBN 0140157352 (Focusing on Interests, not on Positions) Getting Past No, by Ury, ISBN 0553371312 (Negotiating Your Way from Confrontation to Cooperation) -- Regards, Sascha Schumann Consultant To Unsubscribe: send mail to majordomo@FreeBSD.org with "unsubscribe freebsd-current" in the body of the message